Yesterday I got into a Twitter fight.
Wait, I haven’t told you, I am back to being social.
Let’s connect there.
I think as a blogger, it is so lonely to be off social media, also I love connecting with you all and learning from all of you, so I had to join social media again.
So back to my Twitter fight, before joining social media again, I promised myself to not be what I hate on social media, to be different.
But yesterday, I failed.
I got so offended by people and responded negatively..
In a way that I didn’t promise myself to be. I am not proud of how I was on social media yesterday.
I get so easily offended, feel behind in life, and compare my life especially on social media, and that is why It was easy for me to leave so many times.
So I decided to make self care rules / tips that I will follow, so that I can take care of my mental health while being on social media, and here they are;
– Be what I would love to see online
Which to me is a kinder, more loving, supportive and a good human being there as I am in the real world. I think it can be easy to be ballsy on social media when we are not so in the real world. So I plan to take my real world self, there.
– Take breaks
I plan to not leave social media now. So I plan to take breaks, week breaks or month breaks. Just to relax and be off it, because I have a love-hate relationship with social media, also it drains me.Breaks help me to rejuvenate as well. So one week every month will do.
– Unfollow some people or trending topics
I am a very curious person. Very curious.So when I see something trending, I tend to read about it and follow every conversation.
So now I plan to not be on the know about everything.
Just like when I wasn’t on social media. In this case, ignorance is bliss (though am not a fan of this slogan).
I don’t need to give an opinion on everything.
Unfollow people who make me feel some type of way, if someone brings up some feelings in me, I will unfollow them and then dig deep as to why I felt that way.
Create some boundaries.
– Remember that people don’t share their behind the scenes
All I see on social media may not be fake, but it maybe not all of it.
For example, I am in Dodoma,the capital city of Tanzania, enjoying my time here, and I share those pictures on my Instagram, it’s not a lie.
But I am also frustrated, that, I didn’t show them.
A lot of things go wrong in my life, but a lot go well.
So I should not judge someone’s life and compare it to mine, just by one story.
– Remember why you are in it
I joined social media for my blog.
Not to fight with people for giving their opinions on things.
That’s not why I am there.
So I need to remind myself that all the time.
Why are you in it?
– Do some other things in life
When I was on my Twitter fight yesterday ????, I realized that, that wasn’t for me.
I am for peace IRL, and unity.
Then I decided to go and read books.
My life doesn’t have to revolve around social media, I am supposed to use it, not for it to use me/drain me.
– Turn off the notifications
It keeps me from being active on the time when I don’t have to.
Notifications create some mental noise and urgency, and make me reactive.
Here are some more tips I have found helpful:
Let’s go spread love on social media, and give it to ourselves as well.