A friend of mine advised me sometime ago, and he said, ‘ hustle with your man when he has nothing, and when he earns in life, he will respect you, even though he will cheat with other women, you will be his number one’.
Have you ever been in a situation where someone starts to make sense and then they mess it up by adding something that make you forget all the sane things they said??
It was me that day.
And I don’t know if it is just this season of my life or what, but I have given up on trying to change people.
If you say something, my response is, I understand where you are coming from, I understand your perspective.
And that’s all I say these days..
But honestly maybe the world has given up on the idea of a faithful man, wait, before we go there…
There are so many seminars for women and few to none for men.
This is good, however most of them teach women how to bend to an unchanging man.
If we are all disciples of Christ, weren’t we all supposed to be learning Christ’s ways?
Aren’t we all suppose to be changing, growing to become more like Christ?
Then why it is only women who are taught to change day in and day out?
Maybe we have accepted how men are, and we secretly believe they won’t change, but women can, women want marriage, they can change anything to achieve that.
All am saying is, the world is filled with men and women, to make it better, both of us need to change…
I asked one guy what was the secret to their marriage, and he told me, learning.
No lie we grew up with passed on information about life, and how our people did their lives, is that the same way we want to do our lives? Will that work for us?
I think a man doesn’t have to fit in the masculine ideas passed on by his uncles, that’s how the uncles decided to live their lives. Learn how to live yours as well.
Families are built by men and women, to sustain ad nourish families, both need the knowledge and changes.
Society are made of men and women, both need to be changing, to be faithful, to work on a better society..
Men need to learn from other men who are good examples..
More seminars for men please..